Divorce Advice For Women: Should You Get Divorced?
The decision to divorce is never easy, and that much is true. But it can be made easier if you know what you are getting into, and what to expect in the process.
A divorcing couple should be aware of these things before making a decision to divorce, so they can make an informed decision and move on with their lives without being constantly caught up in the drama.
You have every right to be shocked
You have every right to be shocked, upset, angry, hurt, and depressed when you begin divorce proceedings. But do not let these feelings consume you-they will pass, and you are in control. If they do not pass, see a counselor to help you work through them-they can be good resources when you need to talk through the emotion.
You will have to make the decision to divorce. You must understand why it is happening-what your marriage and marriage relationship were like-before you can move past it. Your emotions do not make the decision for you. If you are angry and upset, then you are angry and upset. Accept that fact. It makes sense. There are so many questions in the beginning, because you are not always sure of the future, or what to expect in the future. You have to make sure that you are thinking rationally-you can't be thinking about the past all the time. If you are still angry after considering the future and what you can look forward to, you might have a rocky road ahead.
You should think about your finances and your bills. You have to realize that you will have bills to pay, and that bills may come out of the divorce settlement. It is okay to think about your bills as you consider the future. It makes sense that the future will probably involve bills and debts. The decisions you make about the money will affect your future. When you have made your mind up, make the choice to divorce. Remember, you still have a life to live as well. You can make the choice to stay in the marriage, and make the other person happy. However, if you get bored and tired of living with this person, there is still time; but if you are unhappy, it is a no-brainer decision to divorce.
If you're not sure whether you want to divorce, you should ask yourself, "Would I want to be married to this person if I were me?", and decide on whether you want to get married, or not.